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james pagoota
Country: United States
I emailed you twice since 05/09/11 that I had processed a case#381=400733 and acquired for the client 1567.00 of his 2700.00! The rest of the money goes to his former spouse Michelle H. Colligan same case# I wish to process her refund but it is no longer listed as a prospective client in the system! I wished re-instatement for this case#! I have not heard anything from you even though you advise I should hear from you within 24 to 48 hours! Get with it please! James Pagoota
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What is psychological harassment in the work place?
Psychological harassment is vexatious behaviour that manifests itself in the form of conduct, verbal comments, actions or gestures characterized by the following four criteria:
They are repetitive*;
They are hostile or unwanted;
They affect the person’s dignity or psychological integrity, and
They result in a harmful work environment.
Sexual harassment at work is also included in this definition.
What is vexatious behaviour?
It is humiliating or abusive behaviour that lowers a person’s self-esteem or causes him torment.
It is also behaviour that exceeds what the person considers to be appropriate and reasonable in the performance of his work.
Psychological harassment may come from a superior, a colleague, a group of colleagues, a customer, a supplier…
* A single serious incidence of such behaviour may also constitute psychological harassment if it undermines the person’s psychological or physical integrity and if it has a lasting harmful effect
Making rude, degrading or offensive remarks.
Making gestures that seek to intimidate, engaging in reprisals.
Discrediting the person: spreading rumors, ridiculing him, humiliating him, calling into question his convictions or his private life, shouting abuse at him or sexually harassing him.
Belittling the person: forcing him to perform tasks that are belittling or below his skills, simulating professional misconduct.
Preventing the person from expressing himself: yelling at him, threatening him, constantly interrupting him, prohibiting him from speaking to others.
Isolating the person: no longer talking to him at all, denying his presence, distancing him from others.
Destabilizing the person: making fun of his convictions, his tastes and his political choices
Psychological harassment must not be confused with the normal exercise of the employer’s management rights, in particular his right to assign tasks and his right to reprimand or impose disciplinary sanctions.
Insofar as the employer does not exercise these rights in an abusive or discriminatory manner, his actions do not constitute psychological harassment.
Prevention first
Prevention in the undertaking remains the best means of combating psychological harassment. It is the employer’s responsibility to take reasonable steps to prevent psychological harassment and to put a stop to such behaviour when it is brought to his knowledge
Promote respectful interpersonal communication.
Manage the members of his staff fairly.
Take quick and appropriate action to manage conflicts; do not allow the situation to deteriorate.
Clearly define the responsibilities and tasks of each employee.
Put in place in his undertaking a procedure that is known, efficient, credible and adapted to reality, to allow persons to report cases of harassment confidentially.
Resort, in certain cases, to specialized resources to help put a stop to a psychological harassment situation and to prevent other such situations from arising.
What should you do in the event of psychological harassment at work?
Wherever possible:
Talk about the problem you are experiencing with someone that you are close to, a person that you trust. Do not remain isolated;
Express very clearly to the person who is the source of the unwanted behaviour your wish to see such behaviour cease immediately.
Check inside the undertaking if there is a procedure making it possible to report the unwanted behaviour confidentially.
Bring the matter to the attention of your employer who must put a stop to this behaviour by taking appropriate steps.
The Act respecting Labor Standards provides a recourse in the event of psychological harassment at work, which is available to every employee, whether unionized, non-unionized, or at the senior managerial level. The Act sets a 90-day period to file a complaint
I asked them what do they get out of this great deal and was told they receive the $40.00 each month from their clients (us).
Who knows of a real deal?
Who Frequently Uses the Delphi Technique?
Governments, School Administrators, Organizations and Unions.
How Does the Delphi Technique Work?
The facilitator begins by working the crowd to establish a good-guy-bad-guy scenario. Anyone disagreeing with the facilitator must be made to appear as the bad guy, with the facilitator appearing as the good guy. To accomplish this, the facilitator seeks out those who disagree and makes them look foolish, inept, or aggressive, which sends a clear message to the rest of the audience that, if they don’t want the same treatment, they must keep quiet. When the opposition has been identified and alienated, the facilitator becomes the good guy- a friend – and the agenda and the direction of the meeting are established without the audience ever realizing what has happened.
Top 10 Tactics Frequently Used:
1.Meetings are held but they make it almost impossible for people to attend or to be involved.
2.They will only allow the public limited time or limited questions and insist that questions be held until the end of their discussion.
3.They provide only enough resources to cover part of the problem or deliberately withhold important information.
4.They appoint many committees using the same key members.
5.They will pack a meeting to simulate public support for their position on an issue.
6.They will conduct private close-door sessions without informing citizens with opposing viewpoints of these meetings.
7.When dealing with politically heated issues they will use “economic blackmail” as a scare tactic such as massive lay-offs, program cuts or safety violations.
8.They will give the appearance of action without doing anything or set artificial deadlines that are never met.
9.They will refuse to give out information or make it impossible to get it.
10.They will engage the public in detailed explanations or debates that are intended to sidetrack the issue or concern.
Diffusing the Delphi Technique:
•Always be charming, courteous, and pleasant. Smile. Moderate your voice so that you do not come across as being aggressive.
•Stay focused. Jot down your thoughts or questions ahead of time. Do not fall for the tactics and make sure that they answer your question. This may require you to politely repeat your question until you receive an answer.
•Be persistent. Continue to politely repeat your question. Never become angry under any circumstances.
•A tremendous amount of information is available on the Internet regarding this topic. Please learn more about this and be prepared to take action.
This is one of the perennial manipulation methods of con artists. They create a web of lies laid around so thick, that it warps reality for you and makes you fall victim to their manipulation. The only way of saving yourself is to check for inconsistencies and recognize bluff. Be slow in trusting is my rule. Till you know a person closely enough, avoid sharing personal and financial information. Be wary of any offers, business proposals that are just too good to be true. On a more deeper level, avoid basing your decisions on flimsy bits of information. It is always best to verify sources of information and test the validity of statements before basing your judgment on them. Again, taking your time and thinking things through is always the best defense mechanism against getting sucked into a vortex of lies. Resist impulsive decisions and you should be fine.
This is the worst kind of manipulation that anybody could be subjected to. Many are forced into doing something that they would never do, as the thing that they are emotionally invested in, is threatened. People with psychopathic tendencies tend to do this with other people. The way to save yourself in such a situation is preventing it from occurring. Do not be too vocal about what your emotional investments are, to strangers. Don't expose your weaknesses unnecessarily. There may be people around bent on taking advantage of it. Open your heart only to a trusted few.
One of the greatest manipulation methods in politics, sports and just about every field of human endeavor is provocation and contempt. A man is forced into doing something silly through provocation, contempt or public humiliation. A hurt ego can be a dangerous thing which can be easily manipulated. When you are provoked in such a way to do something stupid, think about whether it is really worth it. It is easy to let your hurt ego drive you mad. Wait and pause it all, think it out before doing something silly. Provocation always has a purpose and don't react unless you get the purpose behind it. Otherwise, you blindly walk into a trap.
The age-old nemesis that forces people into ruining their life is momentary temptation and greed. When you like something to the point where you are addicted to it, it becomes your weakness. Be wary of temptations, as they are manipulative traps waiting to be sprung on you. Instead of looking for short term gains, evaluate the long term implications of falling for a tempting offer. By knowing and feeding your temptations or needs, someone might take control of your life and dictate terms. In effect, you lose your freedom. Any kind of addiction, like dependence on drugs, booze, sex or money, can be your undoing. By freeing yourself from dependence on material things and obsessive desire, you deny any control to the manipulators, over your life!
This is one of the manipulation tactics used by marketing or advertising companies, as well as fundamentalists. You repeat and repeat a thing so many times in front of a person or a mass of people, that it overrides their reasoning. The only way to save yourself from such manipulative people is to pass things that you listen to, through a filter of reason. Don't accept things because somebody said them. Verify and investigate on your own before believing. Think on your own, is the best advice anybody could give you.
Subtle emotional violence is often inflicted in relationships. This is one of the manipulation techniques in relationships, that often goes unnoticed. You care about a person and he uses your feelings about him as leverage to have his/her way. This often happens in relationships and can only continue till the victim between the two decides that he or she has had enough. Sometimes, we let people ruin our lives and let them take advantage of our emotional involvement in them. Know where to draw the line. Self-sacrifice, beyond a point, is really not worth it. Think about yourself
Deprivation is another class of emotional manipulation that forces people to do things against their will. This kind of manipulative psychology is rampant in family and social life. Deprivation is used to force a person into compliance. This one is a really tough one to beat! Being independent and creating your own source of income is the only way to beat this manipulative trap.
One of the most rampant emotional manipulation methods, that can tear relationships apart is ego caressing. You are fed lies and your ego is caressed until it is so big that the manipulator can turn you into a puppet anytime. In short, vanity can be your bane. This one can only be avoided by down right humility and being a fair judge of people!
Some people like to make their friends choose between them and another person. Now you are more pressured to choose the manipulator, for fear of losing their friendship.
But a true friend would never do such a thing. This is a manipulative method that even little kids use in the playground. To avoid making a decision (and one you would probably regret either way), walk away. Let that person know that you're not going to take sides.
If they throw a huff, that is no longer your problem. What matters is that you stayed neutral. Frankly, you'll be a lot safer that way anyway.
Psychological Manipulation Technique # 2: I'll Do You This Favor, But Don't Forget You Owe Me.
It's really difficult to ask someone for a favor, especially when you know they're going to exploit you right back for it. It's normal to ask a favor from a friend. But there are people who will do you one favor, and then will milk you for every little thing afterwards.
When you put your foot down, they will go on a tirade about how you have no sense of gratitude and whatnot. To avoid this kind of manipulation, be careful with who you ask favors from. Remember that there is a price for everything.
Psychological Manipulation Technique # 3: If You're Sick, I'm Dying.
We all know how this goes. Emotional manipulators will always make themselves look more of a victim than you are.
They crave for attention, which is why they're not always happy when you get the limelight, even if it's just for a headache. There's really no getting around to a person like this.
Perhaps with the right timing, a huge and frank outburst might get through to their head. However, it's easier to just let that person be and avoid commenting anymore.
The truth is, psychological manipulation techniques are often used by cowards. They can't do direct combat; so they will usually resort to sneaky ways to get you to do what they want. Now that you know what some of these dirty tricks are, hopefully, you'll be able to avoid getting sucked into them.
1. Assessment phase
Some psychopaths are opportunistic, aggressive predators who will take advantage of almost anyone they meet, while others are more patient, waiting for the perfect, innocent victim to cross their path. In each case, the psychopath is constantly sizing up the potential usefulness of an individual as a source of money, power, sex, or influence. Some psychopaths enjoy a challenge while others prey on people who are vulnerable. During the assessment phase, the psychopath is able to determine a potential victim’s weak points and will use those weak points to seduce.
2. Manipulation phase
Once the psychopath has identified a victim, the manipulation phase begins. During the manipulation phase, a psychopath may create a persona or mask, specifically designed to ‘work’ for his or her target. A psychopath will lie to gain the trust of their victim. Psychopaths' lack of empathy and guilt allows them to lie with impunity; they do not see the value of telling the truth unless it will help get them what they want.
As interaction with the victim proceeds, the psychopath carefully assesses the victim's persona. The victim's persona gives the psychopath a picture of the traits and characteristics valued in the victim. The victim's persona may also reveal, to an astute observer, insecurities or weaknesses the victim wishes to minimize or hide from view. As an ardent student of human behavior, the psychopath will then gently test the inner strengths and needs that are part of the victim's private self and eventually build a personal relationship with the victim.
The persona of the psychopath - the “personality” the victim is bonding with - does not really exist. It is built on lies, carefully woven together to entrap the victim. It is a mask, one of many, custom-made by the psychopath to fit the victim's particular psychological needs and expectations. The victimization is predatory in nature; it often leads to severe financial, physical or emotional harm for the individual. Healthy, real relationships are built on mutual respect and trust; they are based on sharing honest thoughts and feelings. The victim's mistaken belief that the psychopathic bond has any of these characteristics is the reason it is so successful.
3. Abandonment phase
The abandonment phase begins when the psychopath decides that his or her victim is no longer useful. The psychopath abandons his or her victim and moves on to someone else. In the case of romantic relationships, a psychopath will usually seal a relationship with their next target before abandoning his or her current victim.
Sometimes, the psychopath has three individuals on whom he or she is running game: the one who has been recently abandoned, who is being toyed with and kept in the picture in case the other two do not work out; the one who is currently being played and is about to be abandoned; and the third, who is being groomed by the psychopath, in anticipation of abandoning the current "mark".